On a normal day, I would never complain or worry...
but I have only gained 2 pounds in 12 weeks. Is this normal? The thing is, I feel and look like I've gained significant weight in my tummy and love handle areas, but the scale does not show it. On top of that, for the past 4 days I have not "felt" pregnant at all...much of the bloating is subsiding which helps, but sometimes I wish that or the nausea was still there to remind me that I am pregnant. Is it normal to worry about not being pregnant when you know in your head that you are? Does this sound absolutely ridiculous to anyone else besides me? Sometimes I'm scared that at my next appointment, there won't be a heartbeat. Are these fears normal or am I just crazy?
Please help a hormonal woman through a gray day. Thanks.
8 comments:
aw, ang.... you are perfectly normal to have these thoughts. i couldn't wait to have a belly, to feel the kicking, and in a way, i was a little upset i never had morning sickness. soon enough you will be in ecstacy as the validation you're looking for, is very evident.:)
Yes! YOU ARE NORMAL! :) Worry, not, my dear, for these are the fears of every pregnant woman. It's okay to be concerned about those things, but you just can't let it rule your thoughts. If it makes you feel any better, I only gained 14 lbs my whole pregnancy with Amberly. And my friend is 24 weeks pregnant and DOWN 5 pounds from what she was at her first OB appointment. I remember saying to Dane when I was pregnant with Jadon that"...I just don't FEEL pregnant." And my biggest fear, despite the fact that he was anything but planned, was that I would miscarry...but I had to force myself to dwell on the good things. God has not given us a spirit of fear, and we need to just bask in the peace that He is in control. Everytime I would find myself worrying, I would have to make a conscious effort to CHOOSE to thank God for something about my pregnancy...whether it be changing our plans for His glory, for choosing to trust us with a new life, for allowing us to not worry about fertility problems and not being able to have children....I could think of countless things to be thankful for.
My point is this: you are normal. Your fears are rational. But don't let them rule your thought life! Hang in there girl...and don't worry...you'll soon be putting on pounds faster than you'll be able to keep up with:)
Thank you, ladies, for your encouragement. It really did lift my spirits this evening. Glad to know I'm "normal"! :-)
Okay I know I'm late..but
A. I wanted to buy a fetal heart monitor since the day I heard the heartbeat at the dr.'s office. I was OBSESSED! and terrified too!
B. I didn't gain any weight until the 5th month and in fact lost 5 lbs. in the beginning (due to 'morning' sickness)...although I didn't get a belly until later on, my clothes fit differently and I noticed a significant change in my body - even without gaining a single lb.
Everthing is just shifting around. Be forwarned......shifting never really ends...you can go back to your pre-pregnancy weight/size...but stuff has been shifted forever....
In the end there isn't another person on this earth I would have rather been 'shifted' for!!! These babies are worth every shift!!
P.S. Start using Palmers Cocoa Butter maternity cream EVERYWHERE (belly, thighs, boobs) NOW. I started from the week I found out I was prego (5 weeks) and don't have one stretch mark. Don't know if it's genetics or the cream....but I wouldn't take the chance to find out....Lather it on...
its comepletely normal not to gain anything at all in the first trimester because of all the throwing up and not wanting to eat. At the end of 12 weeks your baby only weighs about an ounce anyway, so it's nothing to worry about at all.
if it makes you feel any better, i've only gained about 7lbs so far and I'm 25 weeks.
I almost laughed out loud when I read your post, not because I think you're crazy, but because I've got those feelings and thought I was the one who was crazy. It's always nice to know you're not alone. Even at 34 weeks, there are times that I don't feel pregnant at all (even worse I forget that I'm pregnant...only temporarily...easy to do when it's not your first). There's really no point to my comment other than I'm glad I'm not alone and thanks for sharing. As for the weight I've had friends who lost 30 pounds and those who gain 70...everybody and every pregnancy is different.
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